Self-love nourishes your growth.

New teaching on IKYAtube.org, our Youtube channel.

True self-worth is not about convincing yourself that you are valuable based on external validation or self-imposed affirmations. Instead, it stems from recognizing your eternal and divine nature as a spiritual being. Human emotions and self-perceptions are temporary, while true growth and expansion come from within. Seeking validation from others creates a transactional mindset, where we look for proof of our worth through external symbols. However, lasting transformation only occurs when we embody self-love and create fulfillment from within rather than waiting for others to provide it.

The concept of value is inherently social and determined by others in a transactional system. We often seek approval or gifts from others as a way to validate our self-worth, assuming that if someone else acknowledges us, it confirms our value. This mindset is deeply ingrained in human behavior, influencing relationships, status, and even material possessions. Our brains constantly assess hierarchies and value-based calculations, shaping our interactions and desires. However, this reliance on external validation prevents true self-empowerment and keeps us trapped in a cycle of seeking worth through others.

Breaking free from this pattern requires shifting our perspective and embracing self-sufficiency. True self-love means recognizing that you are both the gardener and the flower—you are responsible for your growth and flourishing. When you stop seeking value from others and instead nurture yourself with love, care, and effort, you gain true freedom. This realization can be both liberating and daunting, but it ultimately leads to the deepest fulfillment. Only by taking ownership of our worth and actions can we truly bloom into our highest potential.

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